I lost my mother on the 14 December 2013. It was undoubtedly a very distressing time for me, my family and of course my father, who was devoted to my mother.
During the 20 days she was in the MIOT Hospital in Chennai , she suffered because of various reasons. She lost the battle after fighting valiantly and left a void that will be difficult to fill. And while I think the entire staff helped in a way that I can never repay them, it taught me something invaluable.
Something that I think my mother would have wanted me to carry forward and share with others.
Acknowledge and Thank all those who helped – from the heart.
Despite the outcome, it is important to thank the people who helped in any way possible! A Thank You to them, given freely and genuinely, from your heart, does wonders to heal a heart that is heavy & to those who did as much as they could to help your loved one. Do this face to face- not on the phone, or by mail. They can follow – but the instant you do it directly, it touches them in a way nothing else would. And they would help others and possibly make the day for some other patient.
Do this for people who also may not have helped- and you change them in a way nothing else would.
Thank you Dr. Mohandass – MD of MIOT Hospital for all that you did.
Partially taken from : Mohan Dadlani , Outlook Lounge
After driving around in Singapore for the last 10 years, taking to the roads in India was an exhilarating experience. Singapore driving teaches you to follow rules, and over the years, I had forgotten just how much of an experience Indian driving is. Sitting at the airport (as I am now), I came across this article which I just have to reproduce (with some minor variations- due apologies to the author Mohan).
Excerpts from the article:
For the benefit of everyone daring to drive on the Indian roads, here are a few hints for survival. They are applicable to every place in India except Bihar, where life outside a vehicle is only marginally safer. Indian road rules broadly operate within the domain of karma where you do your best and leave the rest to your insurance company. The hints are as follows:
1. Do we drive on the left or right of the road? The answer is both. You start on the left of the road, unless it is occupied. In that case, go to the right, unless that is also occupied. Then proceed by occupying the next available gap, as in chess. (it could be in inches).
2. Just trust your instincts, ascertain the direction, and proceed. Adherence to road rules leads to much misery and occasional fatality.
3. Most drivers don’t drive, but just aim their vehicles in the intended direction. Dont you get discouraged or underestimate yourself. most other drivers are not in any better position either.
4. Dont stop at any crossing or Pedestrian crossings just because some fool wants to cross the road. You may do so only if you enjoy being bumped in the back. Some idiot may try to wade across, but then, let us not talk ill of the dead.
5. Blowing your horn is not a sign of protest but to express joy, resentment, frustration, romance or just a wake up call to a dozing cow in the middle of the road.
There are other points- but this really hit the mark for me. I am sportingly taking the car out – and taking it for a drive every now and then. I spend more time waiting in corners waiting for someone to stop and let me go- much to the chagrin of people behind me! Of course, I have learnt to ignore the horns blaring around me- and am re-learning the joy of pressing that horn- which gives an immediate release to pent up frustrations. The other learning is the ability to rapidly look at all the mirrors in the car- and also in the front of the car. I realized that it is not necessary now- most drivers just don’t care- as it is not their responsibility to worry about someone’s else’s insignificant life. The others will take care of themselves – and they do.
Lastly- don’t get attached to your cars! Especially if you cannot stand scratches & dents. They tend to appear magically even when parked on empty roads.
Having fun! Honk Honk.
For some reason, I always thought the ads in the US were of high quality, and something interesting to watch by themselves. After 4 days in the US, the ad quality, I must say has been a big let down, and mind numbing, to say the least :). Most are so imminently forgettable, that I frankly do not remember more than an ad or two.
However, I saw this ad- for the American Red Cross, and it touched me! Rarely do ads really touch me, but this one – with its line of "Whose life will you change?". Not just did it make me appreciate the ad, but also got me started thinking… whose life will I change.
Going back to India, and doing a role which can make a significant impact, I am thinking to myself- that I may be in a good place, at a good time, and working for a great company, that could help me answer that…. Got a lot to be thankful for in this life.
This is a link to Ryna in a Piano recital she did at NUS last weekend. NUS had organized this session called the 2nd Performers Recital and had children (around 220 of them) who had the opportunity to come and present a piece or two. A wonderful opportunity for children to showcase their experience and also for the younger ones to get used to to the concept of practicing piano in front of a crowd. Ryna’s teacher Ms. Janice Ong obviously knew how to make this work and this effort is all thanks to her… Ryna is obviously very excited with this experience. And we are too 🙂